Coping with bereavement
Mourning and grief are experiences which are almost certain to take place to us sooner or later in life. .
Coping with Bereavement ordinarily means to lose someone we feel affection for through death. It results in a great longing for the deceased person and a cycle of adjustment which may well take years. All parts of our being may possibly be affected – emotional, physical, spiritual and social – but the overriding feeling is one of intense pain, or grief.
Stats from BBC website below
- It’s estimated that each day 500 women in the UK will become widows.
- It’s estimated that 175,000 men in the UK become widowers each year.
- About 180,000 children under the age of 16 years lose a parent.
- About 12,000 children die in the UK each year
Many others are affected by the death of a parent, a friend or a much-loved pet.
What is grief
Grief is the name given to the natural reactions we suffer after the death of someone who’s been close to us. Like with a physical injury, the recovery and healing process can take time. This episode cannot be rushed and varies from person to person.
When we’re grieving, it’s not easy to understand what’s happening. One of the ways in which we can understand better is to look at other losses in our lives, each of which requires a period of adjustment.
Even a straightforward one such as losing your keys will generate a reaction. At the start, we may well have feelings of disbelief, panic, confusion, leading to annoyance, anger and inconvenience.
Life has been for the time being upset and it takes a while to adjust to the new circumstances. In time, we’ll either find the keys or accept their loss.
Learning to adapt.
Recovering from a death is parallel but feelings are extra intense, heartrending and last much longer.
It too is a process of learning to adapt to the new-found situation. There’s a meaningless space where before there was a living human being.
We have to adjust to life without that person.
Written By Elissa Hayes